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December 22, 1938 ~ February 2, 2024 (age 85) 85 Years Old
Mary Brockman Bender died in Lowell, Michigan on February 2, 2024.
She was born in Columbus, Indiana on December 22, 1938. She and her twin sister, Martha, were the fourth and fifth of six children born to Wm. Thomas and Lillian Stilwell Brockman. She was a 1956 graduate of Columbus High School.
Mary married David Pomrenke in 1957, living with him in Wisconsin for 24 years where they raised their family of three daughters and a son. In 1981, she returned home to Indiana and soon rekindled an old friendship with fellow classmates Philip Bender. They were married in 1982 and her family grew with the addition of Phil's three children. Philip and Mary retired to Florida in 2004 where they both enjoyed an active lifestyle. They were married for 35 wonderful years before he passed away in 2017. In 2019, Mary moved to the Grand Rapids area to live closer to family.
Mary is survived by daughters Mary (Stephen) Cooper of Ada and Judith Hezik of Scottsville, Kentucky; and a son in law, Robert Hansen of Dodgeville, Wisconsin. She is also survived by stepchildren Todd (Joyce) Bender of Brownsburg, Indiana; Christi Maples (Michael O'Brien) of Dayton, Indiana; and David (Lorri) Bender of Bloomington, Indiana. She is also survived by 10 grandchildren, 18 great grandchildren, and five great great grandchildren with another on the way.
She is also survived by her sisters and brother: Shirley Suddeth of Palmetto, Florida; her twin sister Martha (James) Jansen of Brea, California; and Joseph Brockman of Columbus, Indiana, as well as numerous nieces and nephews.
She was preceded in death by husbands David Pomrenke and Philip Bender; a daughter, Debra Hansen and a son, David W. Pomrenke; a brother, Thomas Brockman, a sister, Betty Puckett, and her parents. She was also preceded in death by two grandsons, two great grandchildren, and a son in law, Bernard Hezik.
There will be graveside services and a celebration of life in Columbus, Indiana in the spring.
The family wishes to thank Maple Ridge Manor of Lowell for their loving care of their mother.